Defining success on your own terms
I’ve been told, "This is the first-class line," while holding a first-class boarding pass.
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I was ignored by a waiter handing a $4,000 dinner check to a white-haired man at my table saying, “It's a lot, you’ll want some help covering it."
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I’ve been praised with, "It's great you don’t have kids, you can work uninterrupted.”
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I’ve been admonished by comments like, “It’s unreasonable to be a caregiver for your Mom, you can just put her somewhere.”
You’ve been there too, right?
Navigating the byproduct of people’s fears and frailties—presenting as bias and cultural conditioning—involves circumventing the imprint on our psyche.
Not just from men, but shockingly, from women.
When someone is “supposed” to think, feel and act their way, instead of choosing to do, say, or be something else, it triggers their cognitive dissonance.
They are exposing a blindspot, an inner conflict between who they want to be and how they actually show up.
Self-awareness is foundational to self-leadership. You must be an expert at understanding yourself in the context of the world around you. Understanding includes empathy for how you experienced it, the impression it left, and the story you tell.
Personal agency affords you absolute freedom to decide what you’ll BELIEVE.
Words or actions may have been directed at me but they are not for me. I do not accept anything that doesn’t serve me, or expect apologies since nothing was done to me.
I don’t need to be listened to because I’m always listening to myself. My life is influenced by my influence. I’m the thought leader.
Leading myself by how I think.
Keeping my thoughts very clean.
Cultivating only what supports me.
It’s a sacred responsibility as the sole source of inspiration to myself, for myself.
I define success on my own terms. These are my terms: I am NEVER a victim.