Comparison is the thief of joy
There’s no comparison between you and her.
Yet your mind wants to use her to see how you measure up. You know you shouldn’t, but you just can’t help it. You're desperate to know how you're doing.
Instead of looking inside, you look outside with an overly critical eye. You do it from a place of lack, a lack of self-awareness for your subconscious sense of insufficiency.
Measure who you are today against the you, you ASPIRE to be.
Our culture has cued us to conflate a healthy sense of pride and self-respect with arrogance.
No matter how successful we are, we’re plagued by a nagging sense that we’re not doing it quite right.
We unconsciously beat ourselves down with self-criticism, self-deprecation and self-imposed pressure.
It’s why women tell me that work feels like a constant battle.
They’re perpetually exhausted from obsessively overthinking about what a mess they are and how somebody else is surely doing better.
Women, let’s call a truce. You must stop weaponizing someone else's success to sabotage your own. Let's agree, right now, to override your mind's primitive propensity towards comparison, to eliminate the ways in which it's distracting and disempowering you.
Your focus and fixation on everybody else is the source of your biggest blindspot. It reveals how very little you think of yourself.
Hear me when I say this: Sizing up women objectifies women.
We need to take personal responsibility for perpetuating the worst kind of misogyny. When we tear each other down, we tear ourselves apart in the process.
BELIEF in yourself
has a compounding effect.
Why my forever mindset is simple but true: Lead yourself.
Your only competition is who you were last year. You must learn to be your biggest source of inspiration. Focused entirely on equipping you for your path, not hers.
Investing in yourself is your most worthy investment. When you're successful every woman wins.
